5 Lessons I Learned From My Last Polyamorous Relationship

Lynn liked to remind me of how, when we first met on OkCupid, I ignored her message. Only this never actually happened, because she never messaged me. She only neurotically thought about it and then decided against it.

We did eventually meet, though, a few weeks later, when a mutual friend invited us to the same bar. Lynn was up-front about who she was: pansexual, poly, and married. And as we became friends, I began to like her more and more.

When the topic of dating one another came up, I was skeptical, to say the least. The whole open marriage thing was a turn-off. How could someone already in a committed relationship have the capacity to provide care and affection in the way I desired?

Before Lynn, I thought poly people were just swingers with big eyes, high sex drives, and commitment issues. But as we dated and my short misadventures in the world of polyamory began, I began to notice misconceptions I had about labels and the way I existed in relationships…..

Head over to the Greatist to see how going poly taught me labels don’t matter.